If the first rule of a dysfunctional system is ‘Don’t talk about it,’ then our primary goal should be to tell the truth, to be as honest as we can manage to be. When I read something truthful, something real, I breathe a deep sigh of relief and say, ‘Fantastic - I wasn’t mad or alone in thinking that, after all!’ So often we are left to our own devices, struggling in the dark with this external and internal propaganda system. At that point, for someone to tell us the truth is a gift. In a world where people all around us are lying and confusing us, to be honest is a great kindness.
I heartily endorse this comic.
…on this great adventure?
(Source: observando)
…if your partner loves and respects you and wants to do right by your relationship, then you don’t need to place controls on his behavior; his behavior will reflect the fact that he wants to do right by you, and does so because he chooses to, not because you make him. As Shelly wrote elsewhere, behavior is an emergent phenomenon. You don’t actually control your partner’s heart by controlling his behavior. If your partner’s heart is not really with your relationship, making rules won’t protect your relationship; if your partner’s heart is with your relationship, making rules to protect the relationship is unnecessary.
more than two/ polyamory/ jealousy: practice (via inventinghope)
I sort of agree with this, but as I’ve said before, often times “rules” are just a convenient way of saying “If you did this, it would make me sad” - and that’s not necessarily controlling, that’s communicating. And if you’re in a relationship with someone, you each deserve to know what the other finds upsetting.
(via wittingpolyamory)
“If you did this, I would be sad,” is indeed communicating. Which is very different from making a rule. An order of magnitude different.
I completely agree that partners should know about each other, and definitely should know what makes them happy and sad.
(via polyamorousmisanthrope)
Kintsugi—the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold. The idea behind it is that the piece becomes more beautiful and valuable because it has been broken and has a history.
I will have worth, even though I am brokem right now.
I love this so much.
I really, really like this…
You not only have worth despite being broken - you are worth even more because you have been broken.
i think i need a moment
The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.
(Source: princesslilitu)
Take this pink ribbon off my eyes: A word on masturbation:
Masturbation leads to better body awareness.
And familiarity with your body, with what turns you on, with what doesn’t work for you,
Knowing what it takes for your body to feel pleasure,
Will lead to better sex.
Don’t feel ashamed to…
Women are socialized to take passive or reactive roles in sexual interactions and engage in sexual activity only in relationships characterized by romance, love, ad commitment. In addition, Russell (1975) and Warshaw and Parrot (1991) pointed out that women have been socialized to be submissive, kind, and accepting and not to develop the skills necessary to communicate their feelings assertively to men. In contrast, men have been encouraged to enjoy their sexuality and take active roles in courtship interactions. Men are socialized to define their manhood in terms of the frequency of their sexual activity and the number of their sex partners. to achieve their goals and avoid criticism of their ‘manhood’ from male peers, men are encouraged to initiate sexual activity, overcome women’s resistance, and even use coercive strategies (Kanin, 1985) to get sex. … Thus, norms encouraging male dominance and restricting female sexual expression legitimize coercive behavior in sexual interactions in the United States.
Sexual Coercion among University Students: A Comparison of the United States and Sweden by Ilsa L. Lottes and Martin S. Weinberg
The Journal of Sex Research , Vol. 34, No. 1 (1997), pp. 67-76 (x)
Ladies and Gentlemen: rape culture.
Why aren’t more people freaking out about the new Venezuelan labor law?
You know, the one that gives housewives/full-time mothers a pension— wages for housework?
It’s ONLY A HUGE VICTORY FOR FEMINISM, SOCIALISM, AND WOMEN OF COLOR. Not a big deal or anything. Tumblr is mysteriously silent about this.
http://rabble.ca/columnists/2013/05/venezuelas-new-labour-law-best-mothers-day-gift
holy shit!
fucking COOL
Huh….not bad…
Along with establishing new working hours, the law prohibits unfair dismissal, outsourcing, guarantees the right to work for both women and people with disabilities and increases maternity leave.
Under the law, Venezuela now has the world’s third-longest maternity leave scheme. Mothers are entitled to six weeks pre-natal leave, and 20 post-natal. Fathers are also entitled to two weeks paternal leave.
Under the law, the same conditions apply to parents who adopt a child under three years old.
All workers are also now entitled to retirement pensions, including full-time mothers and the self-employed.
BUT OMG AREN’T THESE PEOPLE JUST EVIL AND MOOCHING OFF THE SYSTEM?! BOOTSTRAPS! #’MURICA
Encouraging family (and thus, populace) growth. What will be interesting is how the culture adapts. I can see the great positives already highlighted here, but also great valleys like pockets of society that tell young women to stay home, that it will be ok since they can get paid any way.
I remain hopeful, though.
And here, friends, is a perfect example of how the patriarchy sets its sights on hurting men too. This guy posts a heartfelt, pretty emotional status about how his eyes have been opened to sexism in a way that has really affected him, and what is this outpouring reduced to? “UR SO GONNA GET LAID BRO LOL.”
Because when men have profound feelings or thoughts, it’s TOTALLY just a front to get laid. Not, you know, profound feelings or thoughts.
*the deepest of sighs*
The word you’re looking for is typecast.
And yes, that happens. I imagine it also scares away new allies in the movement to clean the stain.
