orahlith asked:

Not the first, but it happened to me tonight. A guy on OKC couldn't wait to see if I would respond to his messages and decided to search my ID on KakaoTalk (it's like WhatsApp). He found me and was texting me. When I asked "Who is this?" he said "Check OKCupid." I told him I was very uncomfortable that he did this and he said sorry and I didn't have to keep talking to him. It's my mistake my IDs are the same, but changing my ID means paying for A-list. What makes these guys think that's okay?


I’ve had this happen to me before and it’s very disconcerting when it happens. I know that being on social media means that everything is out there, but it feels like stalker-ish behavior.

Unfortunately I don’t really have a good answer for your question—but maybe our followers could help. I personally think rules of etiquette about interacting with people on the internet are still evolving, and men may just not understand that to a lot of women this behavior is threatening.

- S

This is quite problematic. These sites were meant to help buffer us from real life, but when only one record exists where a.username = b.username, you anonymity is protected only by the scope of everything where these names are the same.

I’ve been very careful to fragment my web presence into at least 3 (no, there will be no post of the actual number) of usernames across the net, with nothing plugging into facebook, and I strongly resisted Google’s change in real name policy while it was active. It didn’t make me impossible to track down, but it segregated parts of my life that I wanted to discuss, but only with selected audiences.

One of my biggest worries is cracks into databases and joining on passwords, as my habits there lately have relaxed.

The point I’m trying to make is not one of making the creeped responsible for the creepers’ behavior, but rather one of awareness of the way data works in a wide open net with millions of tabs opening every second. We can never fully control the unscrupulous, even after ettiquete has matured on the net. While the rules for people should be “don’t investigate other site accounts of someone”, perhaps a guideline for healthy net habits should be “use more than 2 usernames where the option for a pseudonym exists.”

A friend once posted a pic of a package that arrived, she was very excited about the contents, and snapped the pic before opening it, showing the shipping label and who it was from. She did a good job covering the address, but a few select pieces of information (including enough of the apartment number, zip+4, and state to match an exact address) that I was motivated to confirm my suspicion, then warn her that the pic could be used to target her/family/anyone connected to the account.she took the pic down immediately and thanked me for the warning, but the lesson stands that incomplete info and joined accounts is risky, and while there are laws for retribution, protection and prevention from the unscrupulous start with our habits. I will never tell someone victimized by such techniques that they should have. But I will say that going forward, they can do X to protect.

In the meantime, talk to your kids about account stalking and how it’s bad. Reinforce this message strongly with these examples as they will be some of the first who grow up in such a world, and they will be a large influence on the etiquette of the net as it sparks and matures.

Leaked Comcast employee manual reveals pressure for hard-sell from tech support



Despite denials from top Comcast execs, a leaked employee manual shows that all Comcast customer service reps, even tech support staff, are required to hard-sell every customer they deal with, using high-pressure scripts that interfere with doing their jobs.

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Big surprise. Another corporate high-level move to sacrifice experience quality for attempts at more cash. I spare no quarter when dealing with such tactics, and in fact am severely pissed off when I encounter them in my day-to-day. I haven’t yet canceled drive thru orders on hearing them, but I think that will become my new policy. Feel free to adopt.




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This just happened in Seattle. A group of nonviolent protestors in support of Palestine were being harassed by a WHITE MAN, this fucking mall cop comes out and maces and detains a black man WITH NO AFFILIATION TOWARDS EITHER GROUP. AN INNOCENT BLACK MAN JUST WALKING INTO THE WESTLAKE MALL. The protestors are actively telling the mall cop that he MACED THE WRONG GUY, that the black man did nothing wrong, and he still handcuffs him and DENIES him water to flush out his eyes being offered by the protestors. I’m so disgusted. I have been to this area and mall many times in my life and I no longer feel safe going. I hope to god he presses charges and that this scum sucking shitstain loses his job. I’m so scared right now. I’m so fucking scared. Source here, but let the video speak for itself. 

So they just mace and the detain the first black man the find.. I FUCKING HATE EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY…

What is actually going on I feel like I am in the twilight zone


Exact reaction.. This shit is draining

ugh this is disguisting

I actually do feel like I’m in the twilight zone at this point. Wtf. FUCK THE POLICE. This shit is disgusting.

At work in the video: established procedure regarding targeting, then division of labor of law enforcement, then the conjunction of private enforcement and property rights. The sort of things displayed in the video the generation just behind mine gets hired in is a big part of why I dropped support of their efforts. I used to work for a company that did aggregation work for tracking people across jurisdictional divisions, but the work was not fulfilling, and when I began to learn more about the aggregate data sets, and the disproportionate racial make-up of them (regardless of region), I became disheartened at what I was doing. Then Trayvon Martin was murdered and my view of police work has gone downhill ever since. Not all police do this shit, but all will be more for their fellow officers doing their job than for listening to public outcry. Taken to the logical extreme results in Ferguson-like events. This is not the twilight zone. This is a certain mentality seeing how far it can push the envelope, and we haven’t been aware of it.

This form of protest and tracking helps to put visibility on the offenders, but will not actually change the practice until the right people are convinced of the problems in the system. Those right people right now have zero interest in counter voices. This is what polarization of politics has created. This and everything that led to it is wrong. But as a foreigner, the most I can do is relay what I think in the hopes that you see it to, and confront these things when they rear up in my life. You, though? Maybe you could make a small change and start a wave of threats the to right person’s power (by expressing intent to vote otherwise unless change happens), and following through if nothing does. Maybe you’ve forgotten that we put up the people who vote for the right people. Maybe you’re disheartened. But then again, if even a fraction of these note live in your area, and voter turnout being what it is, your ability to connect to them by tumblr and organize is no idle threat to incumbent power. You just have to actually do something more than say “This isn’t right” into the cacaphony of the internet. You need to orchestrate some of the noise and weild it against the power structure in meaningful ways.

Rob Ford: The jobless don’t need transit



“If you cannot leave your house to go to or look for a job, what’s the sense of having transit?” Ford said at his Etobicoke campaign headquarters, where he gathered reporters to talk about his commitment to keeping taxes low.

Canada’s favourite mayor is back at it again. Why oh why would jobless people ever need to leave their house? *sarcasm*

Yeah, not that he cared, but if I fell into a tenuous time while working a call center servicing this asshat’s area for pizza delivery, his stance would have killed my chance at finding a new job, getting to classes, not to mention killed the ability of my mother on disability to buy food.

Suffice it to say, these “people” who are using political suave to win elections but don’t have an ounce of sense to understand how complex systems work should not be fucking with those complex systems.



"Don’t say you hate your fam-" No.

"Omg you should love your fami-" No.

"Be grateful they’re your famil-" No.

If you have been bullied, hit, teased, put down, hurt, lied to, or hated by your own family; you don’t need to justify how you feel. You don’t need to explain yourself. You are allowed to hate a family member or dislike a family member if they’ve given you a reason to.

This is so fucking important.

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